Well, I would like to share an interesting book, titled "The Icarus Deception" by Seth Godin about how high will you fly. The contents below is something that I liked from the books.
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I don't care how many friends you have on Facebook or how many followers you have on Twitter. Those are not actual friends or truly followers. I care about how many people will miss you if you're not back here again tomorrow. The opportunity is not in being momentarily popular with the anonymous masses. It's in being missed when you're gone, in doing work that matters to the tribe you choose. The rest of the world isn't nearly as important as the few who are here.
I was amplifying the negative at the expense of the positive, not to serve any useful function, not to make my writing better, but to destroy it. The lizard brain, so attuned to people laughing behind our backs, was on high alert for this sort of criticism and would do anything it could to stop me from writing again. I haven't sought out and read a review or a tweet since.
It's much easier to live a life in the shadows, where you never have to deal with either impostor syndrome or rejection. You never have to confront the fraudulent feeling of being called talented or the horror of being recognized as fraud. So much easier to hide. Success can be just as fraught with danger as failure, because it open more doors and carries more responsibility.
The dangerous addiction is to keep expanding the audience until we find people who hate our work. Talking about performance anxiety, it's silly and counterproductive to worry as your boss reads your report, or as the audience files in to hear your concerto. The work is already done. Take what you need and leave the rest. Just be careful in understanding exactly what it is you need. Their reaction isn't yours, it belongs to them. The art is yours.
Everyone is lonely and everyone feel like a fraud. Deep down, we're worried that we will be discovered as the frauds that we know we are. If you don't stand out, you'll never need to stand up. And no one will call you on what you say or what you do or what you believe. You;re back in your comfort zone, but as we've seen, there's no safety left there.
Feel free to watch the video below if you're lazy to read at the link >>> Here.
After I had finished reading it, I seems to be lost my "originality" in writing and felt that it is much more easier to "copy" thing. Honestly, I am trying to be someone that I'm not used to be and I do have a sense of fear when think about it. In fact, reading and understanding a book is totally two different things as my major problem is having difficulties in concentrating stuff.
During the night, I'm having a good conversation with my cousin as she inspire me a lot especially to have more critical thinking skills. In fact, I shouldn't think that the extra 3 month of staying in UK is waste of time. One important lesson that she told me was the person who keep give/contribute without expecting for any return would eventually gain more. What she really hoped that I can learn from all the things she had shared was to spread positive thought to other people that can be proud of sharing.
Actually it is something related to "deposit love bank" story if you ever heard it before. For instance, it is better to contribute/deposit more into your "love bank" when you're relationship instead of "withdraw" from it. Furthermore, it is essential to say good things to people because that will eventually help you a lot to become a better person. As an example, you will never say your own children is "stupid" right? This would be something that I learn from western culture as they will say "I love you" to their children and hug them although it is not the culture of Asian people.
Somehow I keep telling myself to keep say positive and good things although my "past story" is not good. Anyway, I have some task to do for tomorrow which is summary the 2 books that I read and presented it in a mind map format to my cousin. Seriously I felt so grateful to have a good cousin that helped me a lot and the thing that I could repay her was by being a good guy in real life that can inspire others people to have a happy life. Before I end my post, I would like to share a video about "Overcoming hopelessness" by Nick Vujicic as shown below or the link >>> Here.
Cheer Up!
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