At this moment of writing, I also felt sorry to my previous Entrepreneur tutor as he thought that I have a strong passion to excel. (Sorry for disappointment and misleading) Frankly speaking, my so call "entrepreneur spirit" seems to be deteriorate when I start to have commitment such as the insurance, loan and others stuff. Beside, I might lost my "3 P's" (Passion, Perseverance and Persistence) in some ways although I keep telling myself to improve in someway. Perhaps I should admit that I don't really have a deep passion for writing as there is no a specific goal in the end of this blogging journey. (Sorry again for another negative thoughts) Honestly, the purpose of a diary was to write the high and downs in my life but I felt that I had changed when I accept to write some paid review which no longer represent what I really want to express in my life.
It seems that it will more suit with the advertiser's favour instead of talking about the event that happened to me as it will eventually lead to a "fake" feeling in someway. Afterall, the desire for earning money seems to be getting stronger when I get into the working society. During the afternoon, one of my secondary friend contacted me to meet up. Well, we have been talking a lot while we was young about working nearby after we had grown up near the factory. Somehow I do felt quite envy when he drove the Audi Q5 Quattro to fetch me go to have lunch together near Setia Alam since I have no car. Upon arrival, I shared some of my UK and Europe experience while waiting another friend to come. It seems that the way to success for young generation would no longer "start from the scratch" (白手起家) as the market is so competitive now when compared to the olden days.
For instance, the people from the past doesn't have much ability to learn a new skill or know an information besides than learning or knowing it from the friend or the job they do. Our current generation just need to depend of "a single click on the mouse" in the search engine an eventually get to know most of the knowledge and sometime it is overloaded. Another example was getting the latest information about the famous restaurant in certain area. People on the past get to know the famous restaurant by word of mouth but the current generation just need to search "Top 10 restaurant in KL" and it eventually will come out a longer list or even more. This happened same to me when I was wondering about what is the feeling and experience of my college friend who went to Sheffield UK to study? So after I had blogged about all the 90 days (3 month) study and travel life in UK, it could help other student to save cost.
As an example, when they saw that I don't really gain much knowledge after spending so much money in UK, some junior might felt relieved that luckily that they didn't make the decision to continue study in UK. However, who will ever repay me for the money being spent in UK as I'm the person who will bear the debt commitment. Anyways, it is no use to whine so much other than thinking a way to earn back the money although I know that working for other people would take a long time after I get my first job. When another friend arrived, we continue to have some conversation and I do get some knowledge about the relationship and having girlfriend experiences. As for myself, I do felt a little agitated sometime as I'm not from wealthy family or parent have a big plastic/furniture factory. The only thing that I can told myself was to depend on my capability (靠自己) although the business world is more into relation and people that you know.
Finally I arrived home at 4pm and read a book about "Are you indispensable" by Seth Godin. It is so true that everyday, bosses, customers and investors make hard choices about whom to support, whom to eliminate, downsize or avoid. Moreover, I also grew up in a world where people did what they told just like investing money on education, follow instruction, found a job, make a living and that was that. However, we are currently live in a world where all the joy and profit have been squeezed out of following the rules. Outsourcing and automation and the new marketing punish anyone who is merely good, merely obedient and merely reliable. The working middle class is suffering as the wages are stagnant, job security is fading and stress is skyrocketing where we are no where to run, no where to hide. Furthermore, the people that are easier to replace, the less the company need to pay for them.
Do you agree that smarter people who find the ways to getting things done in a short period or go through the shortcut ways seems to be having more chance of success in this era?
OMG ! This is a negative blog post although I said I won't write it again? Perhaps my greatest strength is to publish a depressing book or ways to make people down but who will really buy this kind of books? At last, I would like to share some positive stuff such as "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do" by Lifehack as shown below.
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Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.
1) They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.
2) They Don’t Give Away Their Power
They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.
3) They Don’t Shy Away from Change
Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.
4) They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.
5) They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.
6) They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.
7) They Don’t Dwell on the Past
Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.
8) They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.
9) They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.
10) They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.
11) They Don’t Fear Alone Time
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.
12) They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.
13) They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.
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Isn't it irony that I'm "hit" with few of the things that mentioned above.
LOL!
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